I just red an article, this morning from Osho about emotional pain, and it inspired me to write about it because I think, in our western civilization that emotional pain is something very real, something that a lot of people, perhaps all of us suffer from. I think it is something misunderstood, we all suffer secretly, because we think there is something wrong with our suffering, we can have the idea that somehow we shouldn’t have suffering, that it is not normal. But truth is, suffering is absolutely normal and even needed, there is no days without nights, no flowers without rain,
We have learn that we should not be sad, we should not have suffering, we have created a mask and we hide behind a false smile because we want to be accepted by others. Our conditioned mind says “smile, what are people going to think of you” even if we don’t feel like smiling, we act, we pretend. From now, when you feel sad don’t smile, don’t pretend to be happy, say it to people I’m sad, I’m depress, there is nothing wrong with it.
If we just sit, in silence, thoughts are going to come, emotions that we don’t want to feel are going to come up and we want to push them away, this is why we watch tv, go to the gym, watch our phone, drink, even traveling can be a mean to escape from ourselves. But truly, as long as we push our pain away, we simply can’t be happy. Buddha used to says:” no mud, no lotus flower”. which means no pain, no happiness. The more we push it away, the more it goes deeper into the unconscious mind. Body and mind are one, what we suppress in our mind goes into the body, this is why we have pain in our neck, our arms, and different tensions. Thoughts and emotions are like a river, they are supposed to flow freely, but because of this false society, we put a barrier, a dam, now the water builds up and builds up and it just want to overflow, this is what a depression is, de-pression, there was to much accumulated pressure.
if you can just allow yourself few minutes every day to sit silently, no phones, and just tell your mind ok, now come to me, I am here for you, and simply listen, it will be painful, but it will be the beginning of healing process, pain is transformation, pain is cleansing, it is rejuvenating, refreshing, go into it, dive into it, watch it, be curious about your pain. Sadness is also beautiful, suffering is also beautiful, it gives us depth, humility, it connects us. I send you all my love.